Live Q&A #WhatUpWednesday Ep. 89

📅 Sep 7 18.00 GMT
➡️ https://youtu.be/Lrk1luU-6BU

After we review a couple of overhead smashes on goal, we'll talk about preparing for the upcoming UK/EUR season, and why shirts matter. We'll also take a hot minute to review all the things we learned from last week's show with Brendan Creed and go through your questions. Make sure y'all come through live!

⏱ Chapter Markers:
00:00:00 Chair Dancing
00:02:27 Topics!
00:06:31 1. Overhead Smashes On Goal – Aerial Passes vs. Shots on Goal vs. Deflections
00:47:37 2. Women's Cut Shirts – Yes, It Matters
01:08:14 3. New Season Mindset – Habits vs. Goals

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Transcript

Happy what up Wednesday! Keely Dunn, FHumpires. I'm very glad you're here. I saw in the pre-show comments that we have a special guest, a star of one of the clips that we're gonna explore later on. Seb, very glad you're here. Part of just one of the many things that I'm trying to do out here in these streets is bring umpires and players and coaches closer together so that we can all actually have rational and productive conversations about umpire issues.

So I'm really glad you're here and, uh, I look forward to your comments and your input as well about the scenarios we're gonna go through. So, uh, let's see. I, I got through most people very happy, uh, in here and. , Uh, yeah, I can, I can see that Hamish, Hamish is already pulling his moderator card, but, uh, it's okay.

We're gonna take a, we're gonna take an educational approach to all this, everybody. Okay? Because we wanna make sure that our friends, the people that we are out there to serve, you know, it sounds like a really subservient word, but it's, it's not meant that way, that we're just there for them. We're, we're there to help them.

We're here there to, to help them have a great game. So, we'll, we'll talk about language and, and things like that a little bit later, but I'm glad you hear, Um, Ben's here as well. . There you go. Everybody's, everybody's having a crack at each other. And Richard, Bruce, good to see you. I don't think we've seen you for a little bit, so I'm really glad you're here and many of the regular, uh, folks, if you're new.

Other than Sev's already announced himself. So sorry. I really should get into the. God, what happened to my, what happened to my stream deck? I'm not even on the, I'm not even in the right application. I dunno what happened. But anyway, this is for Sev.

I hope y'all heard that. I hope it also didn't blow out your ears. One, one never knows what's gonna happen when one starts pushing stream deck buttons. I feel like I'm a little close. Am I a little close? I'm a little close. Okay. This, this feels better. Hi. Okay. What we are going through to date the following.

Okay. We're gonna look at a couple of overhead smashes on goal. We are going to talk about women's cut shirts. Yes, we are. And we're gonna talk about a new season mindset. I'm really excited about the last topic. I prepared a whole session for us, so I'm, It's gonna be cool. What, what I've noticed in the last maybe six months of what a Wednesday is that we've really gone into this direction of, okay, there's all these matches and all these learning points.

So let's go through clips and clips and clips and clips, and they can be very useful. Uh, absolutely. Because you see a, uh, you can distill principles down and apply them in a particular situation and talk about how you want to do that. Awesome. But we have many other skills and other areas of the game that we also need to focus on.

So one of those things for. Is talking about mindset. So let's get into that a little bit later. I think everybody's here and, Oh, hi. You're a new umpire from Scotland. Hi, Paul. You're like that. Let's get a little black pink in there for you. I'm down with the kids. Look at me. Down with kids. Okay. Glad you're here.

And yes, we heard it. and Seb's ready for this. SE is so ready for this. Okay, let's get into this. I've, I've changed the, the manner in which I'm gonna do some of these things. So why would I do the same thing for every show? Can't. Here we go. Overhead smashes on goal. And this was making all of the rounds they can run.

You might even recognize the, the voices behind. Every umpire's new best friend umpire, Brendan Creed, So as one would expect, I did receive this clip from a variety of sources and things like that. And what I appreciate is that there's a lot of people in this community who understand that the way that we approach something like this is we say, Okay, here's a situation.

Let's discuss it. I received some dms and some emails like, How can this possibly be a goal? And how can this, And I'm just gonna tell you right now that I'm super interested in people's rhetorical bullshit. Oops. I even have a button for this. Now. They're rhetorical.

I don't know if that worked. it's supposed to be my mic and beep at the same time. Oh, whatever. So,

When you, when you approach a situation with a rhetorical question like that, what you're not asking a question, Your rhetoric is super uinteresting to me. Because if you would like to say something like, This is an incorrect call, then just come right out and say that, and then we can have a discussion about that.

I would prefer as many of the people in this community did is to say, Hey, here's an interesting call. Not sure I agree with it. Let's discuss it. Okay. And that's the, that's the context we're gonna take with this. I'd like to hear your thoughts on this. I'm sure people are starting to chime in. Uh, with all that?

What do you mean? That was more than a rant? Stijn, Stijn, my friend. Just, you wait. Just you wait.

Um, so what, what are your thoughts when you're seeing this situation? There are many, many cases, more and more as the game is taking up to the air, that we are seeing these kind of overhead smash type goals scored, and it takes a very sort of precise process and then a gut feeling to come to what I would consider to be the best decision in this situation.

So, let's see. Um, you'll have in the backward pass though. I mean, it's pretty dope as far as passes go, but, um, let's see. If you were in the back line, you probably have a better view than the umpire here blowing this and you hope you would've blown against the attackers. Now

these kind of plays are very interesting and if we go back to sort of movement principles and positioning principles as this plays movement towards the end line, one of the things that I coach umpires to try is to actually flash out from their happy place, which should be a couple meters off the post and a meter or two inside the pitch, more or less move around.

Don't pick up roots. Happy place ish. And so if you are there, you might actually be blocked by our friend Seb, in the comments. Because of the positioning that he's taken. There's a couple of defenders in between that immediate spot. This isn't so much flashing as an umpire, just not necessarily moving into what we would call the most optimal position and then making adjustments from there.

But I think there were probably a lot of things that they could see from this, this position. And that didn't go much into the decision making. So let's see. I'm gonna go, um, here, with this. Let's see. Sorry, I have a beach ball, so let's just hold slower. Roll here. Big rig, beach ball over. Okay, here we go. Uh, stay in danger for you where the ball sort of land.

free hit defense. Okay, so Stijn's looking at the danger between the two players, the attacker and the defender, who were off that left post, right post, whatever it is. Wow, I'm getting lots of beach balls today. No clear receiver, uh, in danger as two players around it. Okay. Um, it's an interesting interpretation to apply aerial rules and at first I had absolutely zero.

I was zero bid on applying aerial rules to this. Um, but I guess you can, but I'm gonna pin this. We're gonna come back to it because it's a bit more complicated. Your, your initial thought would be that it's leading to danger and to blow it early and intentionally raised ball with a hit. Ben's gone for the, the technical argument here, and we've talked about how the rules forbid a ball to be intentionally raised from a hit unless it's a shot at goal.

The way that I see this situation is not that this is an intentionally raised. Okay, and maybe I'm crazy, but the easy way, like oc- let's Occram's razor this. The easy way to look at this situation is our creative little friend here on the end line with the ball. Once he sets up into this position, he's actually trying to lob it into the goal.

Okay? Occram's Razor. He's not actually trying to hit his buddy on the far post because, I don't know, he's kind of marked, I would say. So I'm not looking at this as a pass. I am looking at this as a shot on goal or an attempted shot on goal. Scott, the first thought was intentionally lifted, not as a shot, meaning the aerial rule should apply.

Then you saw it going to a crowd, not a single player. If you thought of it as an aeriel, this would break the rule, or you take it as an intentionally raised hit. Not on target would also be a foul. I prefer the second one for many reasons. Lou, you're thinking from the pass, uh, in, as is well above head height and not into clear space.

Okay. If above head height is one of your criterion for danger, Lou, just keep in mind that we don't apply a blanket saying, Well, it's this height, therefore it's dangerous. Well, it's, it's waist height, It's this, it's that. There was a lot of things that go into danger. Okay. And Scott, sorry. Finishing your thoughts.

So free hit defense against who raised it. Receiver's not clear to you. Alene. And isn't this dangerous Play two players around. Okay. Peter, if the ball had gone in, we'd be saying Great goal, except it didn't, you'd be asking for danger free Hit defense. Okay. Um, Shane, your first thought of this is danger. Two players close together, but the receiving player made a bit of space.

Okay. Who is the receiving player? Have you been able to pick an initial receiver out of this situation? This behind the goal? Like if we're gonna go on this pass route. Okay. I'll be your huckleberry. We can, we can work through this, but just, just, let's just caveat all of this with, it's not a pass as far as I'm concerned.

Okay. So if you want to apply aerial rules, who's the initial receiver here? And when we look from behind the goal, tell me what you see there.

Y y'all are really big on this red herring. Y'all are really big on this red herring. Sorry, I'm, I'm reading Hamish's comment here. Okay. The good news is, is that you don't. You get to the same result? I think either way. Okay. Um, let's see. It's hard not to be impressed by this skill. Well, I'm stubborn. I'm not impressed by this skill at all.

I'm just kidding. It is nice skill. Okay. I also know that hitting balls out of, I don't know, I'm a tennis player, so my background, when I was a kid, I was playing tennis. So whenever the ball gets around this height for me, I'm like, Let's go. This is where I excel. When it's down on the ground, it's a lot harder for some reason.

There you go. Raised shot on, not on target. Free Hit defense for you. Okay. For you, it's an attempted shot, but not on target. Danger due to the crowd around the goal. Luke. I like it. So free. Hit defense.

You know how I feel whenever you guys rock up with the devil's advocate stuff, right? I'm like, okay, how's this gonna go wrong for me? Okay. If the raise an overhead shot wasn't an offence, you believe the ball was going straight to the attack and the defender made it dangerous moving to the attacker. No. So, Satan, you're wrong today because.

Okay. In this situation, the ball hasn't even been raised yet. The defender is marking him. There is nothing wrong with what the defender is doing. X-nay, not a chance. No. So Luke, have a look at where they are and just because there's a couple me Yeah, he, they're not stationary, they're not rooted in place. But he's there and marking before the passes or pass, if you wanna call it that.

But before the shot goes, he's there. He's not protecting the goal, he's not marking space. He's marking that attacker really, really well because he's ball side goal side. As a defender, I like this marking. Just saying.

Because it's not a pass. And, and if it were a pass, defender's there first. So if he's not facing the goal with a clear angle, how would you judge? It was a lifted shot at goal. Um, I, I didn't know that players could only shoot at goal when they're facing it or when they have a good angle. It's not a criterion for a shot at goal.

The shot at goal is, did the attacker intend to put it at goal? That's the definition under el rules. Los Rules, Las Regalos. Los Regalos?

Let's see.

Seb, I've got all the toys. Oh, what's happening here? Okay, that's fine. But what's this thing behind us? I have no idea.

I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna try to get rid of this if I can, or I'm just gonna make it really, really big. There we go. Okay. Sorry. Sorry. But things have to be looked after. Holy smokes. I am beach balling all over the place. I'm surprised this is even still going. Okay.

So shot a goal. The action of attacker attempting to score by playing the ball, the, the ball towards the goal from within the circle. Doesn't matter where he's facing. Doesn't matter if he's got a good chance or not. And I know as a goal keeper, you're like, that's, if he's taking it from that angle, that's a crappy shot.

That shot shouldn't even count. But you know what, If you let it in, it's still a shot at goal and it's still a goal. So that's, that's the criterion that we have to work with as umpires. Okay.

No, no, sorry. We, we don't get to evaluate whether that's a good decision to shoot at, goal or not.

I swear if I was able to call fouls for every time I saw players doing stupid things that they had no chance succeeding at, I would've blown my whistle like twice as much in my lifetime. That's not our business. It's not our business.

The only person, person who can see the clear receiver from this is probably the umpire. And we're positioned completely opposite under the field. Yeah, but there is, Hi, can we start this again? It's not a pass just because it goes off the goal and an attacker and a defender are there and it ends up in the net.

Doesn't mean it's a pass because the chances of that pass actually carrying off are so freaking like, I haven't seen even like the Belgians sit there like dribble to the end line and go, Oh, I'm gonna pass it to my teammate up at the top of the circle here. And so what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna put it in the air 3D and then I'm gonna lob it over my head and it's gonna let, It's not a freaking pass.

Yes. Speculative is fine. They get to speculate. They're players. They get to try stuff. They get to be creative. They get to have fun. We're not the fun police. We're the rules police.

Exactly. You're welcome to do this. You're well, Hamish. You're welcome to take back what you said, but still get to the right result. A raised shot off target, danger can still be considered. Okay, so one of the problems that we get into, one of the twists that we get into when considering shots of goal and whether should be danger is that,

I've, and we've talked about this before on the shows, is that when we get into danger territory, we read the shot at goal to be more restrictive because safety is our biggest priority. Safety is paramount. So we say that yes, it's a shot at goal, but still needs to be safe. And just because it's a shot at goal doesn't mean that those rules don't apply anymore.

Yeah, that's me. It's one of my favorite. It's a low probability of success. Leads to danger, call free hit. Yeah.

That stick. And movement by the defenders. Legitimate evasive action. Luke, Very well pointed out. There you go, Caroline hi. Good to see you. You've been, you've been umpiring at tournaments this, this summer. Congratulations. Uh, not a clear shot at goal. Now, even if, Let's go, let's go with that. Ball's actually on target.

Okay. The ball is on target, but it heads towards two players. Okay? Can't cause danger to your teammate, but you can to the opposition. And it's going towards that opposition player who is in a marking position doing all the things that defender should be able to do. Not trying to save the goal, I mean, trying to stop the ball from going into the goal.

Once it gets to the guy he's marking, but he's not there trying to be the secondary shot stopper. Seb's got it. Seb's, Seb's in a great spot to do all the things he needs to do. He doesn't need, he doesn't need his defenders to be stoppers. What he needs is defenders to do are to mark. And that young gentleman was.

Okay, so Caroline, you, I, I know you're getting to the right result, but we need to be careful and strict about what we're thinking of this as because if something changes in the fact scenario, if we mix up, whether it's a pass or whether it's shot at goal, we could get to a different result. Okay. The principles have to be solid.

They have to stay the same. Okay. And the principle we apply here is the shot at goal, whether it's off target or an, that's still dangerous. Yeah. Yes, I agree. Richard. There you go. I know beach balls. You've changed your mind. Thank you. Yeah. Okay, now, oh, I've been sitting here making you look at the rules for the shot at goal.

Um, there's a few other things about this play that a couple people have brought up, like potential obstruction. What I don't like about the attackers movement there, I think it's okay, but what you would take into account here early doors is that, on that spin right here, does the attacker move his body into the defender in order to create this space and the room with which he's able to pick up the ball and then and boot it over.

So I'm not saying necessarily here, but I might have actually been tempted to call an obstruction in this case. It's one thing to turn that's fine, to dribble away, to keep moving the ball, but if in the process of turning you then move your body physically back into a defender, you are obstructing. Okay.

So that's something to consider as well. Cheeky is fine. Cheeky is fine. Absolutely. Just go for it, right? We're okay with that? You retract Well, I don't know that my software doesn't show me when something's been deleted. I'm sorry. I appreciate that you retracted that message. We're good, Luke. We're good.

Jennie, you probably would've consulted you as some supporting umpire. It would be good to think through. Absolutely. You, when you're in this position here where you've got a team who is coming to you and asking questions about a big decision you've made, you could absolutely go to your colleague and have a chat with them and yeah.

That attacker didn't know that the player on his own team was there. Yeah. Who knows? Who knows? And legitimate evasive action. Absolutely, Richard. That's good. Yeah. And it's just, it's into a crowd. Okay. Um, well, yeah, uh, standing, standing one's ground is good. Okay.

I don't know what to say to that one because I don't wanna, I don't wanna say the wrong thing. Okay. Uh, Inga, you, you don't agree with the backing up in this case. Consider, but he stood still and bends down. That's fine. And that's, I totally accept that that might have been there, but I would've been tuned to that, especially on that left back line because that is where players are working with limited space and they have to do some other things in order to create their opportunities so, There you go.

Um, there you go. Standard. You're in the pub.

You're in the pub. I'm sorry. Like your answer's correct, but the pub thing, Dunno. Okay. So it's a shot towards goal. The following action at the back post creates a danger. Yep. There you go, Carolyn. I like that. Um, absolutely. This is it for you. This is it for you. Just right there. Okay. Um, and everybody is also for the last point on this, is expecting me to rip into the umpire for wearing shorts and no socks.

And what I have to say to this is the following. I understand that in…

from certain perspectives, one could say that why should men have to wear pants, Um, if they're uncomfortable, if they, you know, if it's hot outside and things like that. First of all, I'd like you to refer you to Exhibit A, which is the patriarchy and the reason that women have been wearing uncomfortable clothes and things that they don't wanna wear for ages because of societal norms.

You know what, guys? Suck it up. B, B of all. Think about the, your ability as an umpire to professionally sell decisions when you're wearing something that is not the accepted uniform norm. And honestly, if you're gonna tell me that 30 degrees in England is too hot for umpires to wear trousers, I have two decades of going to tournaments with my male colleagues in Barbados and Puerto Rico and fricking Toronto in the middle of the summer, and Rome and all kinds of places where on the pitch it would be well over 40 degrees and they're still wearing pants and they're, and they're fine.

It's not comfortable, but they're fine. They can do it. Okay.

When you look at a tournament like this, there's sponsors, there's fans, There's commentators, it's streamed. People are talking about these matches on social media. It's a great opportunity for these, for these young players and for the older players who are involved in the tournament show up as a professional.

That's all I have to say about that,

Peter. If you wore a skirt, that would be absolutely fine. Skirt and long socks. That's the uniform. I would fully accept that.

And you can say what you want. Oh, but clothing matters. Uniforms matter.

Yeah. Hamish a hundred. Okay, so following up on this, it was also brought to my attention in the server that a similar goal was scored in the first,

Okay. So we're, So since we're still talking about this,

what I say to this, if they're a father, a PE teacher, or someone else, they're umpiring an under, like I, I don't know what, what level this is,

but just because the whole problem is that they don't. Give a hoot. That's the whole problem.

Okay. And it's not gonna change what this gentleman does. You know? It, it's totally fine. He makes, makes his calls. What I'm saying is, is that I would have a had a lot more instinctive reaction to say, Oh yeah, I buy that decision. First of all, he is in a better position on the field. Second of all, if he was attire as a professional umpire, okay?

It's a small choice. It's a very simple, basic choice. There's a lot of things we don't have control over in our world as umpires, but what we wear, we have control over that.

What do you mean? You're at the pub too, Mike. What's going on? Yep. And also agreeing with that. There you go. Some of the work done. Uh, Candice is formally requesting footage of Peter. I'm probably gonna skirt next time. I agree. Okay. And honestly, I'm not saying that for scintillating purposes. I just think that we need to start wrapping our heads around some other concepts in our greater society at large and removing the B of Umpiring and all that kind of stuff.

We could be a part of it. And you could do it for charity. Just, just do it. Just do it. I support you. 

Okay, so sorry, the next video came up I'm sorry. It's an Instagram shot. and hopefully you can see it. It's a little dark

Okay. So I think, I think Bavo brought this to us. I hope I'm saying that right, Bavo, If I'm not, please send me a DM and correct me. Um, but if you can see it well enough,

I don't think I can change that video. But what you have is in some respects, looks like a very analogous situation. Very similar, but there are different facts at play here. One of the biggest ones being that this is a deflection off a defender's stick. Okay? This is not an attempt, this is not a shot at goal.

This is not a pass. This is not an aerial ball. Aerial ball rules do not apply to deflections. Only danger does. Okay. Now that I fed you that part of the answer, let's hear what you guys have here. Different to begin with, it's lifted from the defender's deflection if considered dangerous than a quick PC would be needed.

Yep. Freddie, you thought there could be no advantage for danger that comes off the defender sticks. So PC Well, it's, that's, that's an interesting point, Freddie. I, I like that you brought that up because it's not that there's no advantage. Advantage isn't really it. It's the question of whether danger actually exists.

Now there's no danger to that defender because it came off her teammate's stick. You can't, you can't call something as being dangerous to a teammate. Okay. So the only question that can be conceived here is: from where it's being played, can this ball be played safely by an opposing player? Is there any danger to an opposing player here?

And for me, there isn't. And the attacker is able to come in and because she's not reaching over top of the defender who is there, but actually slides in a little bit behind, and as the defender misses that ball, she's the one who, you know, puts it into the net. We have a good goal. It's, it's a very subtle distinction.

It's very different at the same time.

Michael, you'd love to play on for this, but danger of what, How'd you have you blowing quick to avoid the attacker taking the defender's head? Absolutely. And at a lot of levels of play, Mike, that's absolutely the right way to do it. Okay. But we are looking at, you know, Dutch Hoofdklasse and you have some very, very good players.

In fact, I believe the player who put this ball in the net has been nominated as one of the fih players of the year. So there are expectations of levels of trust that you can give to players in these situations.

Yeah. And Stijn has absolutely nailed that one out as well. The ball can't. Yeah. And I, I understand. And if you would blown that down as a penalty corner early enough, people stop and nobody's like, Oh, okay. We don't know what happens because that sliding door now doesn't open. We have chosen our own adventure and we have turned to page 247.

And we don't know what happens if we had actually chosen page, you know, 304. So that is a completely legitimate way to handle it.

And yeah, it's close. It's close. These, these aren't easy decisions, especially in the moment. They are absolutely not easy at all. Uh, for Hamish, there's no goal, no stick obstruction. Relatively simple when you know that the arrow rules can't be applied. Yeah, the attacker chooses to come in knowing what she's doing performs what she intends.

You don't think there's danger, cuz the attacker wasn't originally there. Yep. You're much happier with this analysis. Thank you, , But you probably Absolutely, Absolutely. And Rachel, I'm glad. I'm glad. Okay. Yep. There you go. And Caroline agrees as well. Thanks, Luke and Caroline. Good. Okay. So this is why it's really important for us to go through these questions of the, um, to go through the, the goal and where does the ball come off?

Is it a shot at goal? Is it not a shot at goal? All those kinds of things. And consider deflections as differently than, as differently. I'm not doing well with the old English today, friends. I'm just not. So there you go. So I hope that helps. I'm gonna blow my two minute warning. Why did that take 45 minutes?

I just never know. And I also have, um, Things have gotten really dark here. All of a sudden the clouds have come over and so I'm looking very dark. This is what happens when you rely on sunshine. See there, I'll just turn up my brightness and hope that helps. Okay. So Seb, I hope that helps. Um, and again, this is not to pile on, this is not to talk about whether an umpire throughout the course of the game was making mistakes and not making mistakes.

Um, I think just looking at that situation there, when I answered the rhetorical question posed to me, how could that possibly be awarded as a goal? Well, because the umpire, attempting to be brave and thinking that the situation there was such that potentially it could be played, everything could be played safely, and it worked out in a way in that situation.

But given that we're gonna put a higher onus on an attacker when they're taking a shot at goal like that, and that they have to do so in a safe manner, as long as the defender is doing their job and they're not the ones creating the danger, we need to package that up and take that into consideration.

So there you go. Thank you . I love how, how good you're, you're all, um, you're all being at saying, I hereby retract and I like that. Okay. And I think on the first goal, I actually spent. I'd say two thirds of the time going. Yeah, Not a goal. And then I really pushed myself and I challenged myself. That's time.

I'm really bad at keeping track of the whole situation there. Um, that I sh I, I, I tried to see all the reasons. Okay, let me work through it. Maybe it was, maybe it was okay, but couldn't get there in the end. 

Okay. I have announcements. I didn't wanna bore Seb with this, so thanks for tuning in. I hope you stay, like, maybe we'll learn stuff together.

Who knows? Who knows? But some announcements. I have a lot of thank yous to give because, uh, some wonderful people made some contributions over the last month that all together you add all these people up together and they make it possible for me to do what I'm doing. So thank you very much. These people here, Wait, wait, where's my confetti?

Where's my confetti?

It's working. Yay.

You know, a Kermit does that and he's like, Ah, yeah, I'm cheering like Kermit, Amanda in the comments. Mike in the comments, and also yellow member and Steven Tabb. Thank you so much for your roses. They have definitely gone to a great place, which is my belly.

And I, I enjoyed my two weeks off and, and maybe drank a little rose while I was doing that stuff, so thank you very much. There is an address down here. If you get value out of this one show and you're like, You know what? I just wanna pitch in and just help, help Keely stay happy. You know, I'm not saying that Rose makes me happy, I make me happy, but buy me a coffee.com/fhumpires.

You can do that. But not only that, friends, there's some people here. Who have just joined up in fhu3t Green, So confetti that ish. Again, thank you too. Daryl Rowe of Australia. Sebastian Archbold from the Netherlands and none other than Dr. Whit Ryan. Dr. Ryan. I'm just gonna keep calling him Dr. Ryan because I'm so proud of him. Dr. Ryan just got his doctorate of psychology. He was on the show talking about mental skills and recovery and things like that. A really good show. So I don't know if there's any moderator in the crowd who can go dig it up for me, cuz I should have found the link before we started, but I didn't.

And. You can review that. It's a good time at the beginning of the season to have a look at something like this, so, you know, please do take that in. And while we're doing this, I, I can't, I have to change the ISO of my camera. I just have to, You'll be fine. Okay. Nobody panic. You can take a look at my decor while I'm doing this and you can still hear me right if I shout Okay.

Iso.

Okay. There we go. Hi. Oh, now my brightness is too high there. I'll do that. Okay. Right. That was fine. David, you made just in time for me to adjust my ISO on live. You're wonderful Amanda. Thank you so much. I really do appreciate you being here, especially cuz like we're sisters. So. And Mr. Hunt's here. There you go.

Um, I was supposed to drink it right before. Well, maybe you should. Maybe you should donate again and then I'll get the instructions better. I'm just kidding. There you go. And that is the address. Thank you so much Dina. And if you are interested in giving this whole FSU three T thing a shot, you're like, You know what?

I think Keely and I, we can enter into committed relationship with each other. You ready for that stuff? Wow. What happened there? That was interesting. It's $7 a month and not only am I super glad and you get some special privileges in the Discord server, including joining occasional watch parties, you also get access to the clip library.

So $7 a month, that's it, You know, and that's probably like, I don't know, two Euro, who knows? And then there's yellow and red. Third team stuff, which is great. Oh my God. Allie's free. Ali Baggot. Good to see you. She's free because her kids are in school. Even the little one, she can't be in school yet. She's just a wee, She's just a chubby, little adorable baby.

There you go. And now you can see me. Yeah, sorry. And you can see it's, It's getting brighter again. Okay. So thank you for indulging my desire to give flowers to people who have done, who have shelled out in generosity to support me, to keep things going. I really appreciate it. Don't forget as well that if you're wondering just why there's so many awesome people in this community, and why do they all seem to know each other and why do they.

Why do they have inside jokes and why do they like each other and stuff? Well, it's because we have this, We have a Discord fhumpires.com/discord, and this is where we do all our mentoring activities with the FQ third team and have regular discussions ask fsu. It's a great place to get my attention for clips that you find on social media.

I can't follow everybody at once. It's just way too hard. So if you, uh, see something and you think, I'd really like to hear the community chime in on this and I'd like to especially hear Keely's opinion, then that's a great place to go. And then I might bring it out and put it on a web. What a Wednesday like I have now.

So there you go. Oh, she's in daycare. Gotcha. Okay, I'll get rid of that. Let's move on to this second topic. Everybody's ready for this one. Women's cut shirts. Are we, are we really here talking fashion friends? We are behold a young Keely Dunn back in her very short and ill advised brunette phase. I just had like a blond piece at the front.

It wasn't, it wasn't pretty, you guys, This was like 2004. Okay? Please notice, despite the really cute pose that I struck, this sh this shirt that literally went down past my elbows, okay? Not a huge, super huge fan of that. If you can see properly, you can recognize from this shot from the 2006 European under 21 Championships in Dublin, it's Carol Metchette on the left there, Christiana Christiana Tonetta on the right.

And there we are in our big men's polos. Again, hanging out European Club Championships. Berlin in 2009. Nine. Shirt's past my elbows again, and look at the look on my face and how happy I am about that. Two shots from the same tournament. Okay, this is 2009 European Championship two in Rome. And. One set of shirts.

The orange were men's cuts, and then the next set of shirts, same tournament. I am exactly the same weight and the same everything, the same cuteness in the second shot, but there's myself and Vilma and Celine. Celine was my roommate for that tournament. It was really nice. She was a great roommate, by the way.

We talked French sometimes and look at the difference of how we look, how we present.

Those of you who are in England, and you're under the auspices of England hockey, you've become aware that new shirts are being supplied by buy EHO, the England Hockey Official Officials. Is it just officials? I don't even know what EHO stands for, but they've had a problem because there are not the same shirts available or new shirts available for both the men and the women.

I'm not here to go through the details of whose fault it is because I have had a lot of direct messages come my way from a number of people. Saying, Well, you know, this person was actually the one who made the decision, and this is actually EHO and this is not, you know, and I don't care. I don't care.

Whoever made the blunder, whoever made the decision. The point is that you have a segment of the England hockey umpiring population who know that they don't matter. Because they weren't thought about at the outset. Few years ago, I wanted to provide umpiring shirts to anybody who wanted them, and they, I picked the color of the fluorescent green, because at least here in Canada and many places that I saw, it was a popular colour that could be used as a backup.

So if you didn't have your own region, area, whatever, association shirts, and you needed a fluorescent green, then here was one. And you know what I did? The first thing that I did is I went to find the women's shirt in that color. So I went to a variety of distributors cuz I'm like, I'm a woman and I like shirts, so let's find a shirt that I can wear.

And then I looked to see if there was a matching men's version. Is it hard to find a uniform? Two shirts that are the same for both men and women? Yeah, it's harder. Do you have to do it? Yes. Do you have to do it at the beginning? Yes. I heard from the women at the who were going to the Commonwealth Games that a few weeks, a few weeks before the tournament or in the, like the two weeks leading up,

it was suddenly realized that skirts might need to be provided. For the female umpiring team, I was forwarded samples of the skirts that they were looking at because they could procure those on a last minute basis. Cuz if you're gonna go with Osaka or you know, Y one or Grays or you know, a big company like that, Kukri, you have to order well in advance.

They have lead times, very long lead times, and that hadn't been done here now, late in the game. There's no question that the people who did their best to make sure that the women had shirts and the women who had skirts worked hard to get that result. It doesn't change the fact that for whatever reason, No, I know what the reason is.

It doesn't change the fact that it wasn't thought about beforehand, just, it just didn't occur to anybody because those to whom thoughts need to occur are the same people who don't have to wear skirts, who don't want to look appropriate and good and look professional in their shirts. And given that we as women are judged so much more harshly on our appearance, and any woman who rocks up with a few extra pounds to high level tournaments is gonna get skewered for that, is gonna get criticized, that's gonna be on their tournament report.

Ask me how I know.

When we are then also presented with uniform uniforms that we need to wear that make us look far worse than we actually are. All I have to say to that is,

that's all I have to say. Let me hear you comments.

Thanks, Dina. I did say that the proper discussion. Yeah. Now something that was brought to my attention is that, and I, I take this at face value, that this was not, Conducted, like the decisions and the responsibilities didn't initially lie with England hockey as in the board and its employees, Okay. It's, it's, it was an EHO job.

Eho mandate. Responsibility. It's their thing to take care of. However, for every committee, every board, every employee that bears the name England Hockey is bound by England Hockey standards. And ultimately the responsibility lies with England hockey. They have, uh, ex uh, inclusion and diversity codes and things to consider.

They have values and principles that they uphold and they hold out and say, This is who we are, and we are the, we are this, we are these people because this is how we behave. This is how we treat other people. This is how we run our organization. This is how we run the sport.

So when you have discrepancies with that, if you fall down and you miss the targets, you realize six weeks later, crap, we didn't think of women's shirts. Here's what you do. You put up your hand and you say, We messed up. We, us, we, we messed up. This isn't gonna happen again because we're gonna include women in the decision making process.

They're gonna be there right at the outset. We're gonna codify this in our standards, our standard operating procedures, and now this is what we're gonna do to try to fix it. No new shirts for anybody if women can't get new shirts. End of story. There we go. Okay. What I was most alarmed with, with this whole thing were so many people just going, Well, it wasn't us.

It wasn't me. It wasn't, you know. No, but I'm trying to fix it. I get it. You're trying to fix things, but when you make a mistake like this, the first thing you have to do is hold yourself responsible. Yep. I fucked it up. Oops. Didn't press the button.

Because of that. We can get back from, We can get back from that cuz we understand people are human. We can address that. But if it's a nonstop morass of, Not me, not me, not me. We don't get anywhere.

Good to see you in. Thank you.

And and that's fine too. So when I talk about women's cut shirts as well, let me catch myself on my own binary thinking. One of the things that I did on my website with the shirts that I had is I called it the, the tapered cut and the box cut. Because some women don't like the, the, the slim tapered cut.

Some men don't like the boxy cut. I've, I've, I've seen, there's guys in the server who said I had a woman's shirt and they looked really good. Probably cuz the arms were a little tighter and you know, Yeah. Like you do, you look good, but get what you need to fit your. And people who have that physical shape who are oftentimes, who sometimes identify as female,

please include us in these decisions. Oh my gosh, baby umpire. Yeah. Baby umpire. Luke starting his career at York. There you go. Living it up in Rome. Yeah, it is an England hockey. Hockey officiating. Thank you for that. Okay. There you go. Yeah. Yeah. It's, it's, it's a real struggle. Allie as a, um, media officer for path, um, has experienced this, you know, close up and also in her professional roles, um, back home and yeah, it's really frustrating and that's nice.

Uh, we appreciate that, Adam. That's, that's important. Yep. Sizing is an issue as well. You're absolutely right. Rachel and I, I fully support that. I mean, oh boy. You should have seen like this. When I, when I, when I pull up this again, Okay, so this was, Oh, the scene just doesn't wanna change. All right. You think you got me?

You think you got me? You can't defeat me. There we go. So these were TK shirts that we were wearing in Rome, and so the, these were the fih issue shirts. TK was the sponsored for a number of years, and I was wearing a double xl.

Celine was probably in a medium. Vilma would've been in a, in a, in a large there, maybe in. Me, not a slim woman. Those two very slim women, literally not a single woman, wore a small, none of them. The mediums were pretty small on the tiniest because the sizing norms were such in that brand that

they just didn't fit. And man, that was harsh. That was harsh. We were warned about it. We were warned about it, and we, and we got to try on other people's stuff and went, Wow. Oh, I'm a double xl. Am I okay? That's the way it goes. All right. And it hurt. It hurt.

Yep.

Yeah, and it's, it's just, you know how I talk about habits as she stays towards our next topic. If you don't habitually, if you don't have systemically built into your process that you're gonna look at these issues, you're gonna make mistakes. You're, you're, it's gonna trip you up. If you don't have the habit of being in the right position in the field, it's gonna make your management decisions a lot harder and you're gonna make mistakes.

This is an example of something that is not a habit yet. It's not systemically embedded in eh o, which is a new association, new people. Like, I get it, I get it. It's all unstructured, but these things aren't baked in. So when we talk about organizational culture and, and all that kind of thing, it, this is why we talk about it.

Is to get it baked into the habits. So little things like this that don't seem that important, but actually are really important. Get taken care of and get handled properly. Absolutely nothing. There you go.

Thank you. Ja, Candice, Beautiful Rest in peace. Um, two years ago, and you were one of the first female media staff. Yeah, absolutely. Knowing that we're gonna be uncomfortable and feeling not at our best impacts our performance, it impacts on our desire to be a part of a system. One of the first things I said when I was approached to become an umpire, Ian Gibson walks up to me.

In Vancouver at the Senior National Tournament, and I just scored a goal and he says, You could become, you know, you could become an umpire. And I'm like, What? And wear those clothes. Ooh, A. I was an asshole. Okay. I was 30 years old, 29 years old. I was a jerk. No question about it. But

it factors in to the appeal of what we're doing. And if young women are looking up at us and we're wearing ill fitting things and we, we look out a step with the younger players, we don't feel confident. So we're not projecting that beautiful, strong energy out there on the pitch. They're not gonna join in, they're not gonna think that umpiring's for them.

Back in the day, especially tournament organizers didn't think there would be people wearing anything below medium. Yep. So we have, we have both, both sides of the spectrum, Right. Is just not good sizing there by Lou. Okay. So the lesson, Wait, should I, two minute warning this. Let's see if I can actually wrap this up in two minutes.

Something which just happens every 20 or 30 years. So I think that is about Candice's. Um, Candice's quote there from RGB is one of the most important things that we can. We can look at if we have diversity in our decision makers, if we have diversity in our committees and we have diversity out on the field, we have diversity at the top.

We have diversity, everyone with our volunteers, with everyone. We have people in place who understand the needs of that diverse population. So we need to get all of that taken care of and to continue pushing everyone who represents us to represent us.

Not the most clever thing I've ever said.

Yes. Yes. We, we need different shapes, different sizes. Because we have different people, we're all different. Does it make it hard? Yes. Is it worth it? Absolutely. Yes. We want Rachel on the field. We need Rachel on the field. We need little, tiny, skinny guys who don't feel comfortable in boxy shirts. We need them on the field.

We need people of all shapes and sizes on the field because it is a sport for everybody. Hockey's for everybody, and we need everybody. There we go. Two minutes.

That kinda worked out. Oh, but it keeps going to this scene. This is weird. Okay, don't worry about this last topic, new season mindset. Now, I know that there's a lot of you out there. You're in Australia, you're in New Zealand, South Africa. You are not starting a new season, so this is not to exclude you.

Hell, I'm not starting a new season yet. I don't start a new season til October and it's indoor and it's gonna be long. But there you go.

Don't make me laugh. David Hunt. We sure. We sure do. Um,

but for me, September has always been one of those, uh, has always been the marker of a new calendar. So January, everybody's like, New Year's Eve, let's start our new habits and let's set resolutions. I don't care about that. I went to university for eight years. We don't have to get into the details of why it took me eight years to get two degrees.

But anyway, eight years. And then of course school, you know, lower level school, all before that. September was the time where everything changed. The world was different. You moved into a new environment, a new level. There were new friends to make. There were new clothes to wear, there were new classes that you were taking.

Everything was different. And for me, September is the time of renewal and possibility and change. So I wanted to talk to you guys about your mindsets coming into this new season. And for those of you who aren't going into a new season and think, let's just talk about your mindset period. Like why not right? I'd like to know how many of you have goals, how many of you as umpire, set goals for the upcoming season?

And I'm not going to start on my talk until I know what's happening and I'll just get through couple wrap-ups here, Carol. And having to complete the pre tournament shirt sizing form with three sizes that you cover all bases for men's women's unisex cuts. Hoping that you, you'll get women's, but knowing you get men's absolutely.

Like how I'm like, I would like an L, an M or an S depending on what shirt I get, like what style it is. I have no idea what I'm gonna get. It's just, There you go. Yes, I know Adam. Oh, you're umpiring your first game since December. Yes. Cuz you were away, weren't you? And now you're back on Saturday. Stijn is a goal setter.

Your goal is to get to the next level. Okay? Your, your goal is currently to make that start. Make what? Start. I don't know.

And I think goals are important because they are the best way that you can measure your progress. However, I want you to think about whether habits can serve you better than focusing on goals, and here's why. Okay? First of all, for those of you who have set goals on anything in the past, how has that worked out for you?

How have you felt? When you've set goals, I know that my entire international vampire career was defined by the goals that I set. Everything I did, everything I felt was wrapped up in my goals. Wanted to make the promising list, needed to make the promising list, wanted to get appointed to a Junior World Cup, wanted to get appointed to an Olympic qualifier World Cup qualifier, wanted to get appointed, wanted to get promoted to grade one, and I needed to do by this time, by this age.

And then when I got on the Road to London list, it's like, Okay, now I want, My goal is to get on road to Rio and actually get to Rio. I set those goals, but I had no control over whether I would actually achieve those goals.

I could very easily get left off, be overlooked for any of those things, not within my control. So I spent a lot of time being very, Unhappy in my international umpiring career because I wasn't meeting my goals.

So can we instead shift our mindset to the things that we can do that would help us along our way to our goals? So let's think about this from a playing perspective, and stop me if you've heard this one before where teams are talking about their dreaded pro process. They're talking about their process.

As long as we stick to the process and everybody was like, Ugh, I hate these interviews. We get it. We get it. It's annoying to hear. But what they're talking about is the fact that they have systems that they've put in place. That they believe will help them reach their targets to reach their goals. They don't focus on the goals because you need the systems in order to actually achieve the goals.

A lot of us will, will set a goal like, ah, I wanna get appointed to this thing. Then that, that's my goal. My goal is to get appointed to the under 18 school championship this year. Okay. What are you gonna do to do that?

That's the key. Okay. Um, let's see what everybody is saying. Okay, Steven, we'd love to have you back. Get back on the pitch. Coaching's. Coaching's fine as I've done some, but it's there. Your goal is to find a shirt that doesn't make you look fat. Ho. That's a great goal. Just kidding. Right? Uh, Rachel, you've had problems with your, like you need to reach the start of the season fit.

I see. Okay. Okay, I got it. Um, Matt Goff, you are pushing towards a panel. Indoor. Okay. So these are targets. These are targets and I'm glad you guys are talking about them because I'm not saying don't have goals. What I'm saying is let's look at something that you put in place back to problems with goals.

Sorry, I'm, I'm trying to get through a talk without really looking at my notes and it's really not going very well. The problem with goals number. Is that winners and losers all have the same goal. Every team that goes to the Olympics has the goal of winning their matches. Every team has the goal of winning the goal, but only one team can do it.

So for umpiring, every umpire has, has the goal of reaching the Olympics of umpiring the final, but only two can do that outta the entire set. So did all the other umpires just fail to set their goals well enough? Is that where they fell down? Did those other teams just not goal set properly? It's not up to the goals, it's up to the systems that are put in place.

It's up to the things that you do in order to achieve those goals that get you there. The next problem with goals, problem number two is that when you achieve a goal, it's a moment in time. Ask anybody who's won a big competition that they've prepared for, or they trained for a marathon, they ran that marathon and they achieved it, great.

But you've only solved that problem of not running a marathon by running a marathon. And that's a problem that's solved at the results level and the result, it happens and then it's gone. And then you're sitting there going, Now what? Because your focus has been entirely on that result.

The systems that you might have put in place that you had to do over and over and over again, and you had to adhere to get you to a lifetime of change, a lifetime of doing something different, if that is actually what you're focusing on. The third problem, and that it kind of relates to the the, uh, the goals being one moment in time, is that if you pin your happiness like I did, my feeling of achievement and umpiring on achieving a goal, you're only gonna be happy for that brief moment.

That's it.

One of the quotes that I pulled off, um, from James Clear, who, as those of you who follow me on Twitter, know I'm a big fan of James Clear. And what he said was this. He said, When you fall in love with the process rather than the product, you don't have to wait to give yourself permission to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your system is running, and a system can be successful in many different forms, not just the first one you envision.

Okay? If winning is the, is the, is the only goal that matters. For example, why weren't the Dutch women happy coming into this year? Why did we hear of all the problems and, and, and, and the culture and, and all this kind of thing? Why did Alyson Annan lose her job if winning was the only thing that matters?

Cuz they hadn't lost. They all should have been happy. And I think a lot of us were looking at it that way, going, Well, what do they have to complain about? But it's not about the winning. The winning is the result of doing all of the other things right and well in a way that you love and enjoy and provide you with satisfaction content in your life.

So with all those things in mind, I'm interested in hearing from you. So this is, this is your, this is crowd participation moments. Of course. I wanna hear what habits. So if you have goals in place, if you've been working with me in the FHE 13, awesome. You probably have a head start on this, but if you haven't, let's think of some habits that you could put in place as an umpire as you start this new season, A new habit.

You could start. That will further your progress.

That may get you to your goal. It may not, but can it be a habit that you're gonna get enough out of that you're going to enjoy the fruits of your labor, the fruits of your, of your, of your changes there. I'll go go through some of your goal or into comments here and see what's happening and then I'll tell you about a habit that I just started recently.

So Scott, originally your goals were passing the required fitness test and becoming level two. Okay. You set a goal for most games though, even if it's to use a certain tactic, you need goals to progress goals, help measure your, your progress. But what you actually need to progress are actions. Our habits, things that you do regularly that contribute to that success and make mistakes all the way.

Obviously some goals you can't control. Yep. And some you can like raising the level of umpire trainees. Yep. There's a lot more within your m but there, which is really good. Uh, anger. Your goal is to be consistent when you're umpire and coaching in a way. When you start from the needs of the umpire, you're coaching and that can be good.

Uh, you've probably heard about smart goals and goals that are tangible, that are measurable, that are all those things. Um, that's a good aim. That's a good target. But to set a goal for that, that makes it a little difficult because how do you know, How do you know when you're doing all those things? Uh, Dennis learning from accomplishments and failures have allowed you to achieve so much more than goal setting.

Yep. Lucky to have smart people around you and opportunities to take part in. I like hearing that.

Uh, . Yes. Yes, Steven. This is something that we all have to do, right? One of one of the things that I'm working on as a human, as an individual is to not get emotionally affected by things that I see on the internet that end up blowing up as umpiring controversies. I'm trying to get better at just emotionally detaching myself and, okay, what is my job here?

What is my purpose? It's to help people understand and learn so that we can do things differently in the future. So I have to let go of my emotional attachments to people being nice and being right, and all that kind of stuff. Okay, here we go. We're starting to get into some habits here. So I'm gonna bring up this screen cuz I can write down some of your habits that you come up with or maybe just bring up your comments on the screen.

I wonder if that'll work too. Let's see. So to, to give you some context of something that I'm, I've been, um, working with is that, um, I mean personally I've been having some, I've been going through some, some harder times coming off the end of the pandemic, coming off the knee replacements a lot of stress from running my own businesses and, and things like that.

And, uh, I recently started having massive problems with migraines. I'm, I'm probably gearing up for migraine today, in fact, cuz it seems like whenever I do a live stream that triggers a migraine, I still love you guys. I'll still do it, don't worry. So my doctor prescribed antidepressants. And those antidepressants were first targeted at my migraines, but also just my regular mental health.

And when I started taking them, I hated it. I hated them. I got weird dreams. I, ooh, I just hated the dreams I was having. Really bizarre. And I started putting on weight, which was a known side effect of this medication. And I thought, you know what? I have a goal of mitigating, minimizing, hopefully altogether, stopping my migraines on my own and taking care of my emotional health, my mental health on my own.

So I don't know if I can do all that. I don't know if I'm entirely in control of that, but I decided, here's the habit I'm gonna do. I'm gonna get out there every morning. And I'm gonna walk for 15 minutes. That's it. Science says that exposing yourself to sunlight to regular light for 15 minutes and getting those messages into your brain are very good for your hormones and for health benefits of walking 15 minutes a day

is all it takes to achieve significant benefits. And I said, You know what? That's a habit I can, I can implement, I can do that every day. Who can't walk for 15 minutes every day. So I started doing that.

And then it turned into 30 minutes, and then it turned to 45 minutes. And now I'm walking every day for an hour, listening to podcasts, listening to music, which is also a key point for me to help lift my mood, to make me feel good, to make me feel productive and happy. These are the, this is the habit that I've implemented my life, that I know will contribute to my success.

Will I necessarily achieve that goal? No. But the, the, the contentment, the enjoyment that I'm having at doing these things habitually, Of going out for my walk. I look forward to it. Now, the night before, I'm like, I get to go for my walk tomorrow. This is gonna be nice. And it hasn't rained on me yet in like over two months.

So that's an example of a habit that I put in place to help me achieve something that is a bit nebulous is, is a bit nothing, but I don't have to focus on that goal. I can focus on what I'm doing for myself there. So, let's see. Uh, you need to be less self critical and more self analytical, says, Amanda, you really enjoy umpiring, but improving your confidence.

would make the whole experience so much more fun for you. Okay, so how can we, how can we put this into a habit instead? Like for example, maybe your habit could be a game journal.

Uh, that you do every time

after every match. Okay. Where you have to write down, uh, you know, three things that you, that you did very well. Okay. Three things you'd like to improve,

and maybe a person that you were able to look to and, and say, I feel good about my umpiring today. Okay. Saying these words to yourself is really powerful. Self talk. And maybe if you do this every game. This could be the habit that helps you see the reasons why you should be confident. Confidence is earned.

It's earned over time. It's earned over repetitions. You're just not giving yourself the repetitions of acknowledging the things that you're doing well. So maybe that's something you can try. Okay, Scott, you gonna say bye? Okay, thank you. Okay, Luke, before each season you summarize all your coaching in the, that you work on and you do the same, uh, and to do the same thing after your games that you were happy.

Okay? That's really well what you were happy and not happy with. Absolutely. So that sort of game evaluation could be the thing that really, Whoops, uh, for some reason. Okay. Hands off the track pad. Okay. So those are things that you could, that's something that you can think about as well. And maybe, um, Luke, that's something for you that you're like, Okay, I've been thinking about these things, but maybe I can record them now and make them a little more, more disciplined.

For a lot of people, a habit could be to do your. Full dynamic warmup before every game. Okay, Will that make you an injury free umpire? Who knows if that's your goal is to get through a season without an injury. Warming up might be it, but warming up can also be the habit in and of itself, Something that you're able to put together that you strive for every day.

A system that you follow that gives you satisfaction and gives you rewards. Just doing that habit every day. Every game. Okay, so the systems lead the progress, not the goals being the arbiter of your success, if that makes any sense. Your goals are simply going to give you a target to say, Oh, that gives me feedback on what I'm doing.

If you end up getting injured a bunch of times in the season, even though that you're doing this great habit of doing your dynamic warmup, that gives you feedback, maybe that's not the thing that's gonna make keep me injury free. Maybe I'm not doing the right things in my warmup and I need something to change.

So you're getting feedback on your habits, you're making your mistakes, you're moving on from them, you're iterating. Okay? But the goal itself is actually not the ultimate thing. It's what you're doing to get along into it.

Okay. So as you're going into your season, think about what habits you could change. Maybe it's what you eat on the on, on game days that you're going to eat. You're gonna make sure you eat three hours before a match, you're going to eat a healthy meal, whatever that means to you. And see how that contributes to your overall, to, to your lightness, to your focus, to your energy levels, to all those things to measure against.

Yeah. I've, every game I have the goal of being more focused and being into, and, and well prepared for every game. Here's a habit I can get into that is going to move me towards that. But doesn't, But the end goal of being of focused is not, is not it, it's the system that you've put behind it. Okay? I would love to hear more from you guys about this once you've had some time to think about it.

So make sure you pop into the Discord server and we will continue this conversation. I think I'll start a thread under general and we can talk about new habits that we wanna try. And if you're anything like me, you're probably thinking, Okay, I'm going to do this, and then I'm gonna start doing this. I'm gonna do this and do this.

And you're gonna add a whole bunch of things to your plate. Take a knee, just take a knee on this, okay? Stick to one thing. Start with one thing that you're gonna change, and better yet, If you can stack that habit on top of something that you already do habitually

that will help you stick to it, don't overwhelm yourself. Don't make it so big that you can't possibly like make it so small. And if it was like for me, I had to start treating myself better and I had to prioritize getting outside thinking deep thoughts to myself instead of always rushing, rushing, rushing and working on the computer and looking into this pane of glass.

And I attached that habit of walking to my first morning tea every morning. I was like, If I go out for my walk, as soon as I get in, I get to have my tea. Excellent. So I connected those things together. I connected the reward and something I was already doing habitually. And it made it so much easier for me to stick to.

And now I don't, I I'm like, I can't have my tea unless I've gone for my walk. It, it's wrong. It's just incorrect. So little things like that. Okay. Yeah. I hope you do give it a go, Amanda. I hope that does help and let's keep talking about this. Okay. Cause life isn't all about clips of overhead smash goals and five meter infringements and things like that.

It's about us developing as umpires and as human beings. And I'm here for that. Okay. Once you're back to full fitness, breakfast follows the 4K walk. There you go. Good job. Good job. I've been going, my walks are between five and six K now, so I'm pretty happy about that. There you go. Thanks for joining in.

I hope it was a useful session for you if you've got anything out of it. Today you can always buy Rose. It helps support me and keep me going. If you're interested in the third team, then we do have the FSU third team, and if you would like more mentoring and more contact with me on the regular, we have huddles, we have watch parties, we have all kinds of stuff that is in the yellow membership right here, $27 a month in freedom dollars and memberships for associations do follow on the red, so you can come talk to me about that too.

I hope you have a fantastic rest of your week. If this is the start of your hockey weekend, go get 'em. I wanna hear all about it coming to the, let me know how it goes. And if you're still waiting to start, if you're rolling down your season because you know you're, you're in playoffs right now, I wanna hear about that too.

Let's keep talking and I hope you enjoy your hockey. Bye everybody.

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